Mattie sees her real dad about twice a year since he lives in Texas now. I have always let her decide when she wants to go and I always pay for the plane tickets and what ever she needs so she can see her dad. So Nov 2006 she went to Texas for Thanksgiving and spent a week with her dad. While there he felt it unnecessary to follow the instructions for her diabetes and I was going to fly down there and he assured me that he would start to take care of it. So she came home first part of December and was immediately put in the hospital with Diabetic Ketone Acidosis (very bad). I was not angry with him, just wanted him to realize that we deal with it daily and need to do what is best for her. I think he has the point now... Anyway she wants to go this upcoming weekend to Texas, and I have agreed to let her go. I don't want her to miss the opportunities with her dad.
My friend told me that I was being very careless with her, and now I feel guilt. I think it is OK to let him have another chance to show that he will do what is necessary for her health, and Mattie really wants to go. I do not push my opinions upon her, she is allowed to make her own choices, but yet as a mom now I want to tell her NO...
HELP, not sure what to do, I don't want to be a bad mom and expose her to the danger again. Any advice will be great.....
Friday, May 30, 2008
Mattie
Posted by Heidi Rogers at 11:45 PM
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That's a tough one! I think you're right in supporting her decision to visit her dad, but maybe dad needs a bit of education when it comes to parenting a child with a chronic illness...
Hey Heidi!
I've been thinking about this situation and it must be so hard to leave your daughter with her dad and have no control over it...but yet you can. Your daughter's safety is the most important thing and you need to make sure her dad knows that too. I think it is great you are giving him a second chance, but how do you know for sure he is going to do better this time. I think you need to have him commit to you, and your daughter, that he is going to put her needs first and make sure she stays safe. That is the #1 priority I see. Then, if he doesn't follow through with that, he is choosing that her safety is not a priority and I would not let that happen again. That doesn't seem like a good relationship anyways, if he can't even help keep her safe.
Does that make sense!!?? I'm totally not trying to preach, just sharing what I think I would probably do in that situation. Good luck! Sorry this was so long!!
Hopefully he has been educated better, like Jylaire said, and is willing to protect his daughter better. Keep us posted :)
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